Head Sleeper?

Perhaps you're more of a Blowjob Gladiator? 'A what?!' My girlfriends gives me a shocked look surprised that this question came out of my mouth. I give an explanation of my new terms, the sleeper is a girl who you would never think gives head until you're hooking up with her and she's all about it. The gladiator...well that is a girl who 'kills' blowjobs she is just great at them and loves doing it to boot. With a little more poise about her she takes a moment to think, while my other girlfriend is all over it. She bust in with 'I love sex...I'm a Gladiator!' I can't help but laugh ::thanks for that:: we all know she loves sex and loves talking about it. It's a wonderful part of her personality, she's comfortable with herself and confident enough to open up to us.

I turn back to the more hesitant of the group, Well? The only reason I push so hard is because part of the argument that started this piece was my claim that I could see a 'sleeper' a mile away and guys just don't have that ability. I watch the wheels turn, and am interested when I realize she is trying to think of a way to get out of answering, while my original line of questions was to find out if she was a sleeper. I had strong doubt knowing her as well as I do, she really is not into oral (getting or receiving) and that is a damn shame. I do however take comfort in the fact that my gut is right and I can continue with my side of the topic. 'I'll do it, but I'd rather just have sex.'

You know, you can do both.

I can tell this is a conversation she needs a drink for, so I retrieve one of my favorite Pinot Noir's from the kitchen and pour everyone a glass. She looks to me thankfully as I hand her a glass but still a little pensive, so I move across the room to sit in my favorite chair, so she doesn't catch on that this whole conversation is about her. When I planned to do research I always look directly around me for sources she was the only one out of my girlfriends that I didn't talk about much from the bedroom. A pretty girl, I think to my self... What do guys see when they look at her? Do they see the shy exterior she likes to put out or are they really looking past that with excitement to 'unleash the beast' or at least lioness. Back to the subject at hand, I decide to by pass any mind games and go right for the kill ::its more my style:: Have you ever had a guy give you oral than have sex with you? She watches her wine coat the walls of the glass for a moment...then answers without looking up. 'No, but I've done it the other way around.' Well that's a start isn't it. The statement made with only slight tease. I leave it at that for a moment content with the step she had just taken and ask the other girls a few questions.
What's your favorite part about giving head?
- Rendering a guy completely helpless.
What did the last guy do that you loved?
- Couldn't speak, he literally wasn't able to say a word!
'I like the way they watch in amazement if you swallow.' Blank stares as we all turn to the smiling face that has decided to join the conversation, none of us know what to say. So to break the silence she continues with, 'Ya know I don't mind a guy going down on me...but I would much rather do it for him, I can just never really relax when it's the other way around.' Case confirmed we've got a full on 'Head Sleeper' on our hands. She's okay with a guy going down on her, likes sex, but loves giving head.
The conversation spirals into guys giving girls oral and to stories for another day.
Any guys dream, is my first thought of her but I take it to the other half and find all kinds of outlooks on the topic. The most common, a guy just wants a girl who will enjoy all. Of course the good ol' saying Lady on the streets and freak in the sheets came up more than once. But I couldn't help but find the truth in the statement, much of the feedback I got largely included head is great but I want the girl to do because she wants to, because she really enjoys it!
So in reflection I feel that I can link this up with sex in general...there is no person guy or girl who wants to have to cheer on the other person the whole time. If you hop into bed with me I want you to bring some confidence with you ::walk the talk, if you will:: Trying new things is great, asking me about them is very considerate, but if there is something you want...just say it. Now that I think about it that is a great rule of thumb in general if you want head and your not sure if this girl is into it, just ask. There is nothing to loose!

-n