Edating, eaffairs, ebreakups... a time when any relationship can be virtual based. We've come leaps and bounds from the good old 'Mail Order Bride' days to the 'Email Order Bride with Paypal Account now accepted' days.
When lack of self esteem, work, and general life get in the way, people young and old turn to online dating services to get serious and find love in a timely manner on the regular. New in town? Looking for new friends to drink with? New person to cuddle with or maybe just some strange... please see 'personals' via craigslist. A self proclaimed craiglist queen myself, it is my solution for everything and the first place I start research about any random thought that comes to mind. So why would I stop at antique furniture, vacation homes, and job hunting? When one source has everyone and everything you are looking for...
I suppose it would be the lack of physical, but then again find a good writer and you can almost forget all about the physical. But taking it back to when chat became the preferred way to meet and keep in touch with people, the general steps are always the same. Chat with someone have fun once a week, chats pick up to daily, chats pickup to all day. Wait...All Day?! You don't talk to anyone all day, but as a direct result that many jobs are spent all day in front of computers, you have just allowed this personality to walk right into your life and thoughts, that no one else gets a glimpse. I use the word personality because there is no person that goes with this screen name, even with unbelievable connection. A screen name will always be just that, enter what some people may see as the exciting part...not knowing. The whole life and person that you've chatted with could be makebelieve, someones imagination...that has now taken over your imagination.
That doesn't stop anyone, move on to swapping phone numbers. Does this person really speak how they type? Are they as bold over the phone? In the comfort of your own world with the safety of just being able to log-off, may give the extra push to go ahead and tell this personality everything and anything. But link a voice and a name with your screen name and you take the first steps out of that, which may be a good thing or a bad thing. The first conversation filled with butterflies and nerves, but so worth it. Now maybe take a step back, there was enjoyment but a safe step back is better. Couple of days go by, the chats pick up again, the phone calls pick up, the comfort level picks up.
Hold your breath and press the 'send' button, your image just zoomed across cyber space into some strangers grasp, giving them permission to do whatever they would like with it ::whatever:: With a heartbeat skip you open...new email with attachment. With an seemingly equal amount of risk invested, thoughts drift to the next step.
The next adrenalin rush.
The step that could be considered the make or break, but the make or break of what? and whom? No one. Two screen names, linked to countless hours of chatting, and the hope that you land safely after your leap of faith. From here it looks like this step could bring happiness, but sorrow is also lurking close by. Why take the steps into reality, to feed the need of knowledge or maybe the need for that physical piece to finish the puzzle...all of these come at a high price of possibly not having all of the above again.
So maybe this corner of your life that has allowed you to pour out your soul, should be left as is. A place to use as a retreat or just a good distraction, I know I need that from time to time. So, while I set out to write about the steps of an online relationship. I might have found my own corner to retreat to, but currently it's laced with the contentment of chatting, talking and learning. There's not much else to do...
When all you have are words.
When lack of self esteem, work, and general life get in the way, people young and old turn to online dating services to get serious and find love in a timely manner on the regular. New in town? Looking for new friends to drink with? New person to cuddle with or maybe just some strange... please see 'personals' via craigslist. A self proclaimed craiglist queen myself, it is my solution for everything and the first place I start research about any random thought that comes to mind. So why would I stop at antique furniture, vacation homes, and job hunting? When one source has everyone and everything you are looking for...
I suppose it would be the lack of physical, but then again find a good writer and you can almost forget all about the physical. But taking it back to when chat became the preferred way to meet and keep in touch with people, the general steps are always the same. Chat with someone have fun once a week, chats pick up to daily, chats pickup to all day. Wait...All Day?! You don't talk to anyone all day, but as a direct result that many jobs are spent all day in front of computers, you have just allowed this personality to walk right into your life and thoughts, that no one else gets a glimpse. I use the word personality because there is no person that goes with this screen name, even with unbelievable connection. A screen name will always be just that, enter what some people may see as the exciting part...not knowing. The whole life and person that you've chatted with could be makebelieve, someones imagination...that has now taken over your imagination.
That doesn't stop anyone, move on to swapping phone numbers. Does this person really speak how they type? Are they as bold over the phone? In the comfort of your own world with the safety of just being able to log-off, may give the extra push to go ahead and tell this personality everything and anything. But link a voice and a name with your screen name and you take the first steps out of that, which may be a good thing or a bad thing. The first conversation filled with butterflies and nerves, but so worth it. Now maybe take a step back, there was enjoyment but a safe step back is better. Couple of days go by, the chats pick up again, the phone calls pick up, the comfort level picks up.
Hold your breath and press the 'send' button, your image just zoomed across cyber space into some strangers grasp, giving them permission to do whatever they would like with it ::whatever:: With a heartbeat skip you open...new email with attachment. With an seemingly equal amount of risk invested, thoughts drift to the next step.
The next adrenalin rush.
The step that could be considered the make or break, but the make or break of what? and whom? No one. Two screen names, linked to countless hours of chatting, and the hope that you land safely after your leap of faith. From here it looks like this step could bring happiness, but sorrow is also lurking close by. Why take the steps into reality, to feed the need of knowledge or maybe the need for that physical piece to finish the puzzle...all of these come at a high price of possibly not having all of the above again.
So maybe this corner of your life that has allowed you to pour out your soul, should be left as is. A place to use as a retreat or just a good distraction, I know I need that from time to time. So, while I set out to write about the steps of an online relationship. I might have found my own corner to retreat to, but currently it's laced with the contentment of chatting, talking and learning. There's not much else to do...
When all you have are words.
-n
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